Marriage is one of the most celebrated institutions in our society today. For most women, the idea of getting married evokes feelings of joy, fulfilment, honour, and...

Marriage is one of the most celebrated institutions in our society today. For most women, the idea of getting married evokes feelings of joy, fulfilment, honour, and security. From a young age, many dream of their wedding day, walking down the aisle in a beautiful gown, receiving admiration, and entering into a new life of companionship and stability. 

The wedding ceremony brings family and friends together in a moment of beauty and celebration. Beyond the event itself, marriage promises emotional security, shared responsibilities, social respect, and the hope of building a family. Women need marriage because it provides covering, protection, emotional and financial stability, and partnership. 

They desire it because of the love, companionship, and support system it offers.  And they want it because it is a natural progression of emotional growth, commitment, and maturity. But here's the paradox. While many women long for the idea of marriage, they struggle with the reality of it. When they hear the word MARRIAGE, most women think about the WEDDING DAY forgetting the LIFETIME JOURNEY.

The single life offers them a kind of freedom that marriage does not.  As single women, they can go where they want, with whom they want, at any time. They can dress as they please, attend as many parties as they like, entertain multiple romantic or sexual partners, and enjoy the attention, gifts, and benefits from different men without accountability. 

For most of them, it becomes a lifestyle of independence and self-centered pleasure. However, the principles and structure of marriage are different. Marriage comes with boundaries. It demands exclusivity, commitment, sacrifice, and selflessness.  A married woman is expected to respect her husband, prioritize her home, make decisions jointly, and sometimes sacrifice personal freedoms for the health of the relationship. She is no longer just living for herself but for her spouse, her children, and the covenant she made before God and Men.

This is where the conflict arises: many women want the ring, the wedding, the photos, and the security, but they are not ready to let go of the liberties of their single life and all its associated benefits. Marriage is not just about gaining a husband, it’s about becoming a wife. And being a wife means embracing discipline, loyalty, responsibility, and mutual submission. So, the truth is: while most women want to enter marriage, not all are prepared to live in it because of its principles and the sacrifices it demands.

Conclusion:

Marriage is beautiful, but it demands maturity. It’s not a fashion trend or a status symbol, it’s a lifelong commitment that requires you to grow, give, and most times let go. If you truly desire marriage, prepare yourself not just for the day but for the journey.  Don't desire the wedding and despise the work. Be ready not just to be married, but to stay married.